Getting the school year off to a good start can influence our children’s attitude, confidence, and performance - both socially and academically. The beginning of the school year is a time of excitement and anticipation of new successes, friends, and adventures. However, even this exciting and positive transition from August to September requires an adjustment from the relaxation of summer to greater levels of activity and the structure and scheduling associated with the school year. Parents can help children manage the increased pace and stress of the academic year by planning ahead, being realistic, and maintaining a positive attitude.
Good physical health. Be sure your child is in good health and rested. If possible, leave a few days between that last family trip or camp and the first day of school for your child to relax and center.
Good mental health. Talk to your child about their feelings and expectations about the coming year, and establish a “check in” routine at a time in which your child is relaxed - in the car, in the evening, or at dinner – before the complexity of the year makes it more difficult to carve out time.
Re-establish the bedtime, mealtime, morning and other household routines - at least one week before school starts.
Select a spot to keep backpacks and lunch boxes and establish special study areas. By preparing, students often feel some control over their return to school and appreciate the chance to establish their special spaces.
Arrange social opportunities to renew friendships and establish new ones. Try to arrange get-togethers with some of your child’s school friends before school starts and during the first weeks of school to help re-establish positive social relationships with peers. If your child is attending a new school, this is particularly valuable in providing your child with some familiar faces and shared experiences to anchor them on that first day.
The First Week:
Clear your own schedule if possible. Special after school outings and the ability to talk with your older student about their first week may help him/her acclimate to the school routine and overcome any nervousness over the transition into a new school year.
Prepare the night before. Help students learn to plan and organize by providing them with time and choices of clothing, lunch, etc... the night before.
Leave plenty of extra time. Experts suggest that we make sure our children have plenty of time to get up, eat breakfast, and get to school without feeling rushed or anxious.
After school. Review the after school schedule with your child to ensure it is understood who will pick them up and what activities are planned. A large, month at a glance wall calendar will help them visualize their week, plan homework around activities and appointments, and know what to expect each day.
Share your excitement for learning. When we talk about what our children will be learning during the year, our enthusiasm becomes contagious. We can share our confidence in their ability to gain skills, and shift the focus from grades to learning. Learning requires patience, focus, and positive energy.
A Little Nervous?
Let your child know you care. If your child is anxious about school, send personal notes in his lunch box or her book bag. Experts suggest that our children absorb our emotions, so your optimism and confidence will help their transition. Reinforce your belief in their ability to handle new situations. This also means that children are impacted by your anxiety, so model optimism and confidence for your child!
Let your child know that feelings of concern are natural. Most children experience a little nervousness when they start something new, and we can remind them of past successes. We can also reassure them that once they are familiar with classmates, teachers, and routine, the nervousness will abate, and we can share our own anecdotes.
Reinforce your child’s ability to cope. When a child has a particular concern, experts suggest that we provide them with a few strategies to manage a difficult situation on his or her own, while encouraging them to share the concern and report back on their success. While it is tempting to zoom in, try to help your child generate their own strategies and learn to trust themselves!
Go for quality, not quantity, especially early in the school year. Current research suggests that our children benefit most when we encourage them to participate in one or two activities that are enjoyable for them, reinforce social development, and teach new skills. Too much scheduled time can be stressful and can make it harder to concentrate on schoolwork.
If you child evidences difficulty settling into the new school year, share your concerns with your child’s teacher and raise the issue early on. The goal is a supported transition to a school year experience in which your child can thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.